05 April 2012

The Whole Truth

I am in my fourth year of living in South Asia. It truly is an incredible place. It’s full of rich history and exotic beauty. For an outsider, each day must seem like an adventure with all the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, textures, and chaotic randomness. For me it is simply home. It is the place where I wake up every morning and do my normal routines…shower, dress, eat breakfast, etc. Then I’m off to work. Yes, I go to work, not in a car, but a cycle rickshaw or auto rickshaw, sometimes by the metro or a taxi. That’s how the average "Arjun" or "Rahul" does it too. The random chaos you perceive actually has order and rhythm to it. Life does move at a slower pace and it takes more energy to get the simplest thing done. At the end of the day you collapse in a heap and are thankful if you accomplished one thing during the day. Life here is its own art form with formal greetings and lots of tea drinking. There’s something sacred about it. Something I cannot yet explain.

There’s something else which pervades this land…brokenness. It was its brokenness that partially drew me here. I wanted to help, to offer my skills. In turn I have been broken. My friend says living here is like being put through a meat grinder. That’s a good description of how I feel some days. But most days I am finding it easier to live here broken. It’s in brokenness that I can relate to the people.

Life here is not split up into the secular and the sacred. I’ve been trying to share my journey here as an educator simply from my professional experience. In doing so I have not been able to capture and share life here. From this post forward I am committed to share the whole story…the whole me…where there aren’t lines separating beauty and brokenness, but where they come together to make collage of truth.

Response to Lil Sister's FB Post

I wanted to post something in response to an article my little sister posted on facebook. The article is about a family who after mistakenly was given the wrong baby (a boy) at the hospital is refusing to take their daughter and fighting for custody of the boy.

You can read the full article here:

http://now.msn.com/living/0402-couple-trades-girl-for-boy.aspx

This may shock most of you, but sadly this does not shock me anymore. It still outrages me without any doubt, but I have ceased to be shocked at how females are treated and regarded here (or I should say mistreated and disregarded). I will get into that more in another post. I wanted to give some background to help you put this situation into perspective.

Here’s a good follow-up article which gives a bigger picture of the crisis:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-south-asia-13264301

Basically, the article talks about the issue of female feticide and infanticide. We are talking about 8 MILLION missing girls in the last decade. Essentially, 1 million girls each year. It’s a trend for the rich down to the poor. We are not just talking about aborting a baby. Females are killed after they are born by the family. It has left the female-male ratio at about 917 to 1,000. Virtually India is experiencing a genocide or gendercide.

Here are two videos which show you what people are doing to raise awareness.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6AZvf60a-w&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lysxxSPXEVU&feature=related

A good read to understand the issues women face in this country is …


May You Be The Mother Of A Hundred Sons by Elisabeth Bumiller

This was one of the first books I read upon arrival. It has held true and relevant to today’s women.